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Tue, Oct. 12th, 2004, 10:39 pm
Pat's farewell message for A. Maxie

Hi, all.

In all our rushing about while we were in Albuquerque last August, I don't think I got to share with you A. Pat's farewell message for A. Maxie which she dictated to me over the phone as we were leaving for AM's funeral mass. I ended up reading it at the cemetery while they tried to summon a Deacon from a church in Santa Fe to say a final blessing. Nobody could come, so we ended up with an impromptu service which turned out all right. Here is what A. Pat said:

"I always wondered why U. Pete liked calling her 'the last of the senoritas.' It seemed to us he was the real senorito since A. Maxie was always at his beck and call. It strikes me now that he was referring to her rather privileged youth, traces of which lingered on in A. Maxie. In his wisdom, he knew this held the key to understanding and accepting A. Maxie and so, while he indulged her inner child, he gave her joy by inviting her to discover the world of giving.

"A. Maxie, you loved to be pampered but you pampered back a hundredfold. Thank you for always being there for me and for not loving me any less even if I was not always there for you. Most of all, thank you for teaching me that love involves not being afraid to risk. Good-bye to 'the last of the senoritas'!"

Did I get it all right, A. Pat? Everyone was touched to hear it; it drew laughter as well as tears. I distinctly remember seeing Renee wiping her eyes--I suppose she appreciated it better than some of A. Maxie's friends who were there, having lived with A. Maxie and U. Pete, too.

Love,
Leila

Tue, Sep. 7th, 2004, 12:10 am
June 26th email from AM about her fall

(As dictated to Myla)

Dear Folks,

On Thursday, June 24th, at 2 am, I got up to go to the bathroom and found a cockroach on the floor. I tried to swat it with a slipper and caught my leg on the bedspread. I tripped and fell, striking my chin and right arm against the corner of the computer desk. My head rested on top of a plastic storage box filled with papers. I felt right away that I fractured my arm. I screamed for Pining and she called Raquel and Myla. Myla called 911, and in about 10 minutes, six paramedics came. They put a splint on my arm and boosted me up onto a stretcher. Myla, Raquel and Pining followed the ambulance to the emergency room of Lovelace hospital.

In the emergency room, I waited in a cubicle for a doctor to check me. He ordered an x-ray of my left leg and right arm, and later announced that I had bad fracture on the upper humerus of my right arm. I'd have to come back at 8:30 am to see an orthopedist. We all left Lovelace at about 4:30 am and were back there by 8:30. In the meantime, I called Luis Centenera (Myla's cousin who is Director of Radiology at Lovelace), and when we arrived at the hospital, he already had a copy of the x-rays and had contacted the orthopedist who was to check on me.

The orthopedist applied a tourniquet on my right arm and fused the torn ligaments with the aid of a video camera. After this was done, we had to go to the x-ray again to check the fusion. In the meantime, Luis was in to see us about four times, to reassure me that everything was going all right and I was in good hands. The x-ray looked okay, and I'm supposed to check back with the orthopedist in eight days, on July 2nd. He'll change the cast to a more comfortable one.

It has so far been a miserable three days of not being able to get up without some help, and my arm being immobilized - it can't be lifted up or sideways, but must be left hanging on my side. Raquel cut up some old blouses so my arm could get through the sleeve hole. I have never had this discomfort and pain in all my life.

We had a dinner here last night with my brothers and their wives, as well as Stephanie, the daughter-in-law of Bruno and Elsie Morosin. We had a nice time. Raquel and Myla are leaving for San Diego tomorrow to be with Dave and family. Myla will leave for the Philippines at the end of July, and Raquel is planning to stay longer in San Diego.

I will have this cast for about six weeks and may not be able to send or respond to e-mails, but I can read all incoming e-mails.

Love to all of you,
Maxie

Mon, Sep. 6th, 2004, 10:06 pm
Account from Luz (Wash, DC), written to Pat Sutter (Vienna, Austria) - Sept 6, 2004

Dear A. Pat,

How are you? Sorry it's taken me this long to follow up on the promise to share details, from my perspective, about AM's hospitalization. I'm including additional information, even back to Aug. 8..... It's okay to share this with others, if you would like to do so.

Love to you all,
Luz

Aug. 8 (Sun): It had been a scrumptious weekend here in DC and I was in an "any excuse to be outdoors" mode. Mid-afternoon Sunday, however, I had this strong desire to work on a project that only required use of MS-Word. But then, I needed to get information off the Internet and logged on to aol. That was when I saw B. Fred's e-mail about AM's request for him to call or e-mail about her confinement at Lovelace. It was alarming (serious kidney infection from UTI and her heart infected as well) so I called him immediately and was able to speak to him during which time he mentioned that he had sent a separate e-mail to A. Gina and asked that I forward the e-mail I received to Leila as he was not sure he had her current address. Tried calling AG on the landline and cell and left a voicemail on her cell. Called AM at the hospital - she sounded strong, unlike those times when I had called her at home when she had not been feeling well and sounded weak. I was encouraged by the telcon with her.

Later that evening, AG arranged a conference call among her, Leila and myself. AG was going to arrange to catch the first flight out that she can get.

Aug. 9 (Mon): Called Hilton900 as soon as I got home from the office and it was AG who answered. She caught one of the first flight out of Reagan National that day and had not been in the hospital long before AM sent her home with a list of folks to call, if I remember right. After hanging up with her, I called AM's hospital room but there was no answer initially. I wasn't alarmed as AG had already mentioned that AM may be out for some tests (AG - Or did you say kidney biopsy?) Tried again about half an hour later. This time, AM herself answered. Again, she sounded strong. She had just returned from a kidney biopsy - no results yet at that time. Her very first words after "Hello" were "Gina is here and I've already sent her home with a list of things to do!" Then she told me about the flower arrangement I had sent and the flowers AG brought with her.

Hearing all the noise in the background, I teased her about the need to observe hospital rules such as no partying. We laughed about it. She mentioned that Stephanie was there. I don't know who else was but AM needed to go to talk to them so we agreed to talk another time, and she passed the phone to U. Al. Shortly, before we got off the phone, I had asked her about the note next to the thermostat at the house (AG had mentioned earlier that it was very hot in the house - the AC was off and there was a "Do Not Touch" note by the thermostat.). AM mentioned that U. Al would know. As it turned out, that was my last conversation with AM.

Aug. 10 (Tues): The phone rang as I was heading for the shower to get ready for work. It was Leila on the other end. She had already read the e-mail sent at dawn by Tooey. Since I don't typically turn on my home pc before heading out to work, I had not yet known about it. Anyway, if I recall correctly, Leila had already tried calling ABQ but could not raise anyone (Leila - Is this correct?). We promised to continue calling and whoever reached someone first will let the other know. Couldn't raise anyone at the house and kept running into voice mail on other numbers. I finally called AG's house and spoke briefly with K. Bot (I think I woke him up.) but they had not heard anything more since the dawn e-mail. Finally, asked the hospital operator to put me through to the ICU nurses' station and heard the very alarming news from the nurse practitioner who took the call. She advised that AM was in a coma, that they didn't know how much brain damage may have occurred due to lack of oxygen to the brain during her "massive heart attack" and the time they were trying to resuscitate her, her kidney has shut down and other major organs were failing, that the prognosis was not good. I called Leila's landline and after speaking briefly with Rosalie who told me Leila was en route to a previously scheduled appointment (?), reached Leila on her cell. At that point, I had already made plans to head that afternoon for ABQ, arriving at about 10:30 PM.

Took a cab directly from the airport to the hospital where AG met me at the parking lot so she can prepare me for AM's condition and how she's hooked up to all sorts of tubes including a ventilator. We ran into B. Fred, M. Titang and M. Pining on the ICU floor. Then, AG and I went into AM's room.

No matter how prepared one is, it is still hard to see a loved one hooked up to so many tubes and machines. I approached AM from her right side (there was more room) and began speaking to her. She opened her eyes, turned her head towards me and smiled. I can't begin to describe all my emotions, joy being foremost - she is not in a coma; the doctors are wrong! AG and I looked at each other in amazement. Immediately, AG came up with a means of communicating with AM. Move her right toes once for "yes" and twice for "no". I can't remember now what questions AG (AG mentioned the questions in a separate e-mail) asked but AM answered using the yes and no "code". And even confirming an answer!

We stayed with AM for a while, then went out to the waiting room to say goodnight (or was it good morning?) to B. Fred and M. Titang, went back again to AM's room to wish her a good night and good rest and headed to the house where neither AG nor I slept. I think M. Pining got a little bit of sleep.

Aug. 11 thru 14: During this time, on days AM was not on dialysis (the good days), she would open her eyes and/or turn towards the voice of family and friends visiting her. On those days she was on dialysis, she was not responsive as her healthcare team said that the procedure tired her out plus she was on more meds (sedatives). The one other time when AM did more then open her eyes and/or turn her head towards the voice was when Willie Tengco visited her. We saw tears in AM's eyes. I don't remember hearing if there were any other different responses from AM when others spent time with her.

There was one other time when I had gone to AM's room in the afternoon and noted the deep knitting of her brow. I teased her about getting wrinkles while gently smoothing out the furrow. At about the same time, it occurred to me that the bright sunshine was making her uncomfortable. The blinds had not been turned down far enough. Sure enough, not long after adjusting the blinds, the furrow between AM's brows was gone.

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Between the very encouraging family meeting with Dr. Economou (one of AM's attending physicians) on the 13th (as described in the online journal) and the responses we were seeing/receiving from AM, I felt comfortable enough to head back to DC on Sunday (the 15th), for a few days, to take care of a number of pressing matters but with every intention of heading back sooner if AM's condition changed.

AG called on the afternoon of Monday, the 16th. AM has been nonresponsive since Sunday. So I headed back out Tuesday, arriving in ABQ at 10:30 a.m. You know the rest from the online journal and telcons with AG, Leila, I. Nita et al.

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I'm so glad AG thought about doing a website for family and friends to log on to and check on the status of AM.

And thank you, Tooey, for setting up the online journal so quickly and maintaining it. I'm sure this was very much appreciated by everyone who wanted to know how AM was doing and had been unable to reach anyone at the house (either no answer or line was busy) or through our cell phones when we were in the hospital since they were required to be turned off.

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I so miss AM - our telephone calls, when we would discuss anything and everything under the sun, including among other things, her paperwork, her not rushing to "go yonder" as she still had to "dance at my wedding". And her saying "Hallelujah" once she heard from me - if I didn't "report in" (either by phone or e-mail) at least once a week since "for all she knew, I was already stinking up The Elise with my decomposing body". (So okay, sometimes we expressed a macabre sense of humor.) And of course, there's the pride and joy she took in the accomplishments and/or other exciting news of her many "alagas" et al. She has been one of our "loudest" and proudest cheerleader!

Sat, Aug. 28th, 2004, 10:56 pm
Get-together for Ninth Day of Novena Prayers

Aunt Maxie would have been proud of us: the gathering of her friends and family that we had this evening was wonderful, starting with everyone sitting in a circle around her living room and each one introducing themselves and talking about how they came to know Aunt Maxie. This was Hedy Long's idea. For some it was their first time in AM's house - Deacon Terry Palmer and his Vietnamese wife Lee, from the parish of St. Bernadette, and Fr. Michaelangelo Cimino from the parish of The Assumption. Deacon Terry was the one who took my call on that fateful midnight of Monday Aug 9 when I was frantically trying to get a priest to come for Aunt Maxie, after she had her heart attack. He made sure a priest came--Fr. John Lambert came shortly after and waited 3 hours before the medical staff allowed us to go to AM in the ICU. He gave AM the sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick, with all of us gathered around her bed. A few days later, Fr. Cimino also came to the hospital at the request of Hedy. He prayed over AM, anointed her and gave her general absolution.

Other guests who came to tonight's gathering: Dick & Hedy Long, their daughter Lisa and husband Stan and their 3 beautiful girls Katie, Anne and Tessa; Bruno & Elsie Morosin, Hugh & Marge DeWig, Karen & Neil Silverstein (AM's next door neighbors), Ciay O'Connor, Nanette Hale and son David, Ben & Jo Johnson, Mrs. Chito Zafra, Bapang Masing and Tita Rose, Bapang Tiling & Imang Rosing, Bapang Fred & Imang Titang, Imang Nita, Luz, Lett Dimagiba and son Albert, Joe & Marie Powers, and Ruben & Luchy Manese.

After the introductions, including an emotional statement from Mrs. Zafra, we prayed the rosary beginning with the singing of Amazing Grace and ending with the prayer Ecclesiastes and singing Peace is Flowing Like a River. These were the same songs and prayers in our ritual in the ICU waiting room while the medical team removed AM's life support.

Fr. Cimino said the closing prayer and blessed everyone. He also talked a little bit about St. Augustine whose feastday we celebrate today, and individually blessed Imang Nita & me so that we may have the wisdom and divine guidance in carrying out AM's wishes. He blessed the food and all those who prepared it, and then we attacked! We had enough to feed an army, following the tradition of AM's parties. The big hits were Aching Pining's pancit and fried lumpia shanghai, Lett's fresh lumpia, Luchy's menudo, Imang Rose's caldereta, B. Fred's lechon kawali, and Imang Rosing's paella. Dessert always finds room somehow, and we had A. Pining's bibingkang nasi, Yoly Pioquinto's mochiko, Elsie's sponge cake, fresh fruit medley of watermelon, honey-dew, cantaloupe and grapes, and Luchy's guinataan. Everyone wanted to show off their culinary talents to our American guests!

Nanette, who teaches piano, entertained us with her music. So did Imang Nita.

Endless chatter followed by endless goodbyes....

As the guests left one by one, I realized that tomorrow we will be just by ourselves--Imang Nita, A. Pining and I. No more people coming to pray with us, and only then will it probably start to sink in, A. Maxie's passing.

Sat, Aug. 28th, 2004, 04:58 pm
Leaving Albuquerque

Luz is leaving tomorrow, Sunday, to go back to Washington DC.
Imang Nita is leaving Tuesday to go back to Manila.
Gina is also leaving later in the day of Tuesday to go back to Maryland.

Gina plans to be back in Albuquerque within a couple of weeks, to continue looking after Aunt Maxie's affairs.

Aunt Maxie's friend, Divina Padilla, is offering mass on Sept 5, Sunday, at 7 a.m. at Assumption Church located at Lomas and Tennessee. Aunt Maxie met Divina when she had her kidney transplant in 1987. Divina, a Filipino nurse, was with the medical team at UNM Hospital that performed the very critical procedure which gave Aunt Maxie 17 more happy years. If you are in Albuquerque, you are invited to attend this mass.

Sat, Aug. 28th, 2004, 04:35 pm
Today @ 5:30 pm in Albuquerque

Family and friends of Aunt Maxie who were with her "in sickness and in health, in life and in death" will gather at her home at 900 Santa Ana Ave. for a celebration of her life. Following the Filipino tradition of having a Novena of Prayers, today is the closing day of the Novena, the 9th day of prayers and songs which started the day of her burial at the Santa Fe National Cemetery.

The prayers will start at 5:30 pm (mountain time), which is in about 35 minutes. Then we will read some of the e-mails that have been sent by friends and relatives, from the time she was at the hospital. Pot-luck dinner follows. Wish you could all be here with us.

Please join us in prayer...

We pray for our dear Aunt Maxie, who suffered so much and who bore her sufferings so patiently. We are grateful that all her sufferings have ended. Now she is at peace with you forever. May she now enjoy the happiness of heaven with you, O Lord. We thank you for all the joy and the happiness she brought among us, and the love she bestowed on all of us throughout her life.

O God, our loving Father, you love each one of us in life and in death. You have called Aunt Maxie into your heavenly home. We are saddened by her departure but we believe that she is happy with you forever. Our commen sorrow at the death of Aunt Maxie has united us more closely as a family. Comfort and console us now as we mourn the loss and the departure of our dear Aunt Maxie.

We believe that one day we shall meet again in heaven. Strengthen us as we struggle to say farewell to her. We look forward to the day when we will all be united with you forever.

Renew our faith and our hope in you, in Jesus, your Son and our Saviour and in the Hoy Spirit who dwells in our midst now and forever. Amen.

We entrust Aunt Maxie into your hands forever, O Lord. Have mercy on her soul, and grant her eternal rest. Amen.

Tue, Aug. 24th, 2004, 01:50 pm
Letter to Pat in Manila, 10 January 2001

I got a call from Dindo from LA a few days ago. I also talked to Angela who sounded like a very nice young lady. They were leaving for Rio the next day for the rest of their honeymoon.

Muchit's daughter's wedding was quite a grand affair! Do you know that I went to the San Sebastian church with the other Centro "internas" almost every day during the four years of my high school there? I was even a member of the Centro choir who sang in that church often, responding to the priest in Latin, and can even remember some of the tunes. I was there from 13 to 16 yrs old!! Your letter about the church brought back memories. The girls were lined up in pairs with a chaperon, walking to church (about a 5-10-minute walk). Them were the days!

Tue, Aug. 24th, 2004, 12:40 pm
Let's keep this journal going!

As we grieve for our loss, it might help to remember AM through some letters.

If you have any excerpts from correspondence to/from her that you'd like to share with family and friends, click here.

Feel free to share your thoughts in the "Comments" page of each post.

Fri, Aug. 20th, 2004, 10:51 am
Comings and goings update

Miggy (great-nephew, Maryland) and Cher (his girlfriend, Maryland) arrived in Alb yesterday, just in time for AM's viewing and prayer service.

Dave (nephew, San Diego), Raquel (niece, Manila), and Viring (their step-mother, Los Angeles) will arrive by today right before the burial service.

Fri, Aug. 20th, 2004, 10:31 am
Eulogy

Good evening. My name is Atilano, also known as Al or Alan by coworkers and friends. I am the brother to Maxie, born two years after her.

This is both a sad occasion and at the same time happy occasion. Sad, because my sister, our sister, your best friend is leaving us to go on a journey that we, too, will make someday. Happy, because I can just see the wide smile on Maxie’s face and the twinkle in her eye as she surveys this loving congregation of friends and relatives, for as far as I can remember, this was when she was happiest – in the midst of relatives and friends.

This is my sister Maxie as we affectionately called her – she with the wide smile, she with the sparkle in her eyes as she welcomed everyone to her heart, to her house that became filled with laughter and animated conversation and happy talk by siblings and friends, and like a ripple on the waters in the lake of life, these friends spread towards the banks of 900 Santa Ana Avenue in an ever increasing circle of love and friendship.

Our siblings and friends have learned to call her house the Albuquerque Hilton. So many have visited Max and partaken of her warm hospitality — people from high places in other countries (because of her husband’s service in the US government health service in foreign countries) to ordinary Joe’s like me. There was an endless trek to the house on Santa Ana Avenue, a never ending series of lunches, dinners and barbeques.

Today while searching for a book that could help me with my eulogy, I came upon a book addressed to our deceased oldest sister, Jane. The title of the book: The Be Happy Attitudes, subtitled Eight positive attitudes that can transform your life.” There are other titles in her library that reveal her positive attitude to life, the will to live. Other titles reveal that she also kept up with the latest trends in medicine, politics, self-help, but most interesting of all, books about the Philippines.

Because she was well-read she never lost a chance to E mail her thoughts and big-sisterly opinions to all of her siblings, nephews, nieces, grand nephews, grand nieces and friends. Up to the day before she became ill, she was typing with her one good arm doing E mail.

Her other love was her garden. It seems like there were always flowers blooming in her garden. Even when she could hardly walk anymore, she was in her motor scooter puttering in her garden. I used to help in her garden until one day, I found out what a perfectionist she was. We bought about twenty petunias and pansies and she made me dig and plant them where she thought she wanted them, she surveyed them and decided, nope, they would look better planted elsewhere and she made me dig them out and plant them again. After that I always made excuses whenever she wanted me to volunteer for gardening.

Maxie, I’m afraid when you see St. Peter, this is what he will tell you, “Maxie, do you mind waiting outside the gates for a day or two? You see, it will take the carpenters and the decorators and the landscapers a few more days to build your mansion exactly the way you want it!”

But don’t get me wrong, she is really a perfectionist at the home only because she wanted everything perfect for all who came to her house.

So long, Maxie. Don’t give St. Peter a hard time. He will understand that you are just setting up another welcome house in Heaven. We love you and bless you.

Thu, Aug. 19th, 2004, 02:38 pm
Donations in lieu of flowers

In response to inquiries as to where donations may be sent in lieu of flowers,
you may wish to send them to any of the following:

Our Lady of the Assumption Parish Church
811 Guaymas Pl. NE, Albuquerque, NM 87108

Shrine of St. Bernadette
11401 Indian School Rd. NE, Albuquerque, NM
Mailing address: 1800 Martha St. NE, Albuquerque, NM 87112

Lovelace Auxiliary (Chapel Fund)
5400 Gibson Blvd. SE
Albuquerque, NM 87108

University of New Mexico Hospital-Transplant Services
Patient Assistance Fund
Mailing address:
2211 Lomas Blvd. NE
Albuquerque, NM 87106
Tel: 272-3100

Thank you.

Wed, Aug. 18th, 2004, 10:25 pm
Schedule of Funeral Service and Burial

VISITATION:
Thursday, August 19, 2004 from 5-9pm with a rosary recitation at 7:00 pm in the chapel of Fitzgerald and Son Funeral Directors at 3113 Carlisle Blvd.(between Candelaria and Comanche) NE Albuquerque, New Mexico, 87110
Tel: (505)884-1188

FUNERAL MASS:
Friday, August 20, 2004 at 9:00 am in St.Bernadette's Catholic Church at 11401 Indian School Road NE.

BURIAL:
Immediately after mass.
Santa Fe National Cemetery at 11:30 am.

Wed, Aug. 18th, 2004, 09:46 pm
Obituary

Click here to see AM's obituary as it will appear in tomorrow's Albuquerque Journal and Albuquerque Tribune.

Wed, Aug. 18th, 2004, 01:45 am
May she rest in peace

Aunt Maxie is gone.

She passed away peacefully at around 11:15am, Albuquerque time, barely a minute after she was taken off life support.

The funeral will most likely be on Saturday, as it was AM's wish not to lie in state for more than 4 days.

Wed, Aug. 18th, 2004, 12:00 am
Please join us in prayer today at 10am (Albuquerque time)

Let us all join together in prayer as family, friends, and the medical team at Lovelace hospital prepare to take our dear Aunt Maxie off life support.

Today (Wednesday, August 18) at 9am (Albuquerque time), family and friends plan to spend some time with her. At 10am, the medical team will carry out the family's decision, based on what they knew were AM's wishes. They will remove her feeding tube, breathing tube, blood pressure medicine, and insulin. To help the family focus on comforting AM, the monitors will be turned off. To keep her comfortable in her last moments, and allow her to pass peacefully and with dignity, they will retain her oxygen, pain medication, and dextrose. It will then be in God's hands how much time she will have left with us.


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As the medical team is doing these, we will gather in another room for a ritual including prayers and songs. Please be with us in spirit especially at that time (12 midnight in Manila, 12 noon in the East Coast, 1pm in Brazil, 6pm in Austria, 9am in the West Coast).

-Gina
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When she is off life support, her family and friends, who have been religiously keeping watch at the hospital since August 7th, will begin taking turns staying with her round-the-clock.

Mon, Aug. 16th, 2004, 10:02 pm
E-mail from Gina

This morning friends and family gathered at the hospital to get a chance to get an update from the doctor. The following were there: Nita, Tiling & Rosing, Gina, Leila, friends Jim & Cathy Schirber, Elsie Morosin, Dick & Heddy Long. The doctor wasn't able to see us as a group, but he talked to me on the phone. Fortunately I had a pad and pen with me and was able to take down the following notes:

After her heart stopped on Monday night and was given CPR, her heart calmed down but has been in critical condition since. Medication to keep blood pressure up at a good level...is still on life support...she has a tube in her mouth through which she breathes (ventilator). Her lungs are clear, i.e. can process oxygen, however, the ventilator is what enables her to breathe. Medications are continuously being given through IV to keep her heart rate stable and to keep her blood pressure at the right level. Insulin is also being given through IV. She is receiving nutrition and some other medications through a tube through her nose.

She is not on the brink of death right now. She has a very bad aortic valve, which makes her heart too weak to tolerate all the other things that are going on in her body. Today she had the 4th dialysis so far, and this makes her heart irritable and exhausts her body each time.

Her brain is functional, but all the sedatives have made her drift in and out, and the responses we have been seeing are just "brain responses." We don't know how much she actually processes. Since Saturday we have not seen any responses from her. She is asleep but not suffering.

Technology gives them the ability to keep her body alive for a couple of weeks, even more. Did she want to be maintained on life support? Even if she comes out of this, she would have to be on long-term ventilation and dialysis. Is this the quality of life that she would want to live?

We have requested another conference with the doctor tomorrow at 9 am.

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Dindo (great-nephew, New York) is tentatively scheduled to arrive tomorrow at 1:30 pm. He will confirm after talking to the travel agent.

Luz is coming back tomorrow, arriving 10:30 am.

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When we are at the hospital, we try to check in on her every few minutes. The sense of hearing is the last to go, so although she seems to be asleep, we talk to her, read to her...letters and get-well greetings, readings from liturgy, prayers....we have Filipino music playing on a CD player all the time. We have the image of Our Lady of Mount Carmel hanging on a wall. She has received the sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick twice, has been prayed over several times by priests and deacons, and has received general absolution.

Friends and family are there most of the time, and are allowed into the ICU 2 or 3 at a time.

Mon, Aug. 16th, 2004, 04:55 pm
It's time

It's been 2 days since anyone has gotten any response from AM. Based on the latest medical assessment, the family has decided to remove her from life support at a date and time yet to be determined. Then maybe AM will make her own decision and go in her own time...

More details to follow.

Luz is trying to return to Alb ASAP.

Sun, Aug. 15th, 2004, 08:59 pm
Kidney not responding

After being stable for the last couple of days, there has been no response from AM at all today. A major concern is her kidney, which has stopped responding again. Her blood pressure is too low, and she doesn't look too good because she's retaining water. Because of all this, they didn't do dialysis today. There are no docs around to talk to (maybe because it's a Sunday?). The family has put in a request for a 10am meeting tomorrow with the docs.

Guest updates: Luz left for DC today, but plans to return to Alb on Thu/Fri, sooner if necessary. Leila is staying till the 20th; Gina, 24th; Nita, 2nd. The Schirbers are there indefinitely. Easier for them to have an open return because they drove. Carlos and Ling (friends, PA), who used to live in Alb, are back to visit AM.

Sun, Aug. 15th, 2004, 01:56 am
Another correction

AM did not have a massive heart attack, as one of the docs previously reported. Hers was a "small" heart attack.

Sat, Aug. 14th, 2004, 02:32 pm
Side note

Gina and Luz now have access to this online journal account. Keep checking for their updates.

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